Authenticity makes you unique, makes you stand out and makes you happy because you'll be putting smiles on people's faces; including strangers .
What does it mean to be authentic? Why should you be authentic? What's your gain from authenticity?
As always, I'll give examples from my personal experiences but first, being authentic means seeing the truth and telling it, it means, telling someone you may not like that they look great in their new hairdo because you can't resist it.
According to The Oxford dictionary, authenticity means; of undisputed origin and not a copy; genuine. In other words, it means original, raw, undiluted, etcetera,.
For example, my blog is authentic. I write my personal thoughts-no copy, except excerpts and I quote them or put up photos.
I had a big disagreement with a girl in my class and it lasted for quite awhile. I saw her during our department's dinner looking really beautiful and I knew I had to tell her. It got me a smile from her and now we're talking again.
I had my not so good opinions about Erica from BBN's lockdown season, I didn't like her for reasons I'll not share but when I heard her sing, I couldn't deny that her voice was appealing. She's also really pretty. Have you noticed how her smile reaches her eyes easily?
Why tell a lie? Why hide the truth? It'll only make you uncomfortable except you're not a human being.
More examples... I don't fancy reigning stuff, I prefer to buy them when they've left everybody's eyes. There's this outfit everyone's wearing these days and it's everywhere in the market. It's nice but like I said, I don't like anko when it's not asoebi I'm doing, but I met this girl on my way back from the market . She was walking casually with her friend but she looked so unique in the outfit, so beautiful and generally appealing to the eyes. I complimented her and she said thank you with a big smile. Those are the sort of things that makes me happy - leaving good impressions on the minds of strangers, seeing beautiful girls getting the adoration they deserve, e.t.c,. I also received a compliment from a girl when I wore my thigh-high boots for the first time and it helped boost my confidence.
I don't know why women have a problem with their fellow women. This is not an accomplished fact (at least I'm not sure if it is) but stereotype has it that women are the most unauthentic people to walk the face of the earth. Why?
I envy the way men can easily make friends without even knowing their names, you'll just be hearing names like “boss, my gee, guy, bro, dude, fam", e.t.c,. But you'll hear girls saying “sweetheart" when it's just sour thoughts they have about you. You'll hear “my love" when they'll easily go behind you to steal your man, you'll hear “dearie" when they'll easily tell your secrets and spread rumors about you. Again, why?
Hard fact, I fell victim of fake friendships. You know when they say someone stabbed you behind your back, I've come face-to-face with stabbing (not physical). Long story short, we were really close for a long while, like “I love you" close just for me to find out three years into the friendship that she'd been working her way around me to get the guy she knew I liked. Don't ask me, I'll not give extra gist.
A friend of mine once complimented me. He said, “ I love the way you easily compliment your fellow girls". I remember that we were in a vehicle and I saw a girl with deep dimples and pointed to him. That's one of the best compliments I've received.
To round up, it pays to be authentic. You'll live easy knowing you do not have any intentional enemies, you'll smile easily and at least even if you don't have an army of friends, you'll have a handful who love and respect you.
Try authenticity and tell me how it works out for you.
Cheers!
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