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Unbothered in mid-calf boots

​ “Mockery often reveals limitation, not superiority. When people laugh at what they do not understand, it says more about their world than about the person they are laughing at.” In 2022, I travelled back to my hometown for a wedding. While I was at the salon getting my hair done, the ladies attending to me suddenly began laughing loudly and making fun of someone outside. They kept pointing and laughing as if it was the most amusing thing they had seen all day. I usually do not involve myself in public mockery, but this time, curiosity got the better of me. I looked out the door to see what was happening. I saw a very beautiful woman of average build stepping down from a bike. She was wearing a lovely outfit, paired with a beautiful pair of mid-calf boots that matched perfectly. To my surprise, the ladies were laughing at her shoes. I tried to look again, wondering if there was something else they could possibly be laughing at. Then I heard one of them say in our native language, “Loo...
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A Year of Service, A Lifetime of Lessons

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CAMP SERIES: EPISODE 11

Lesson learnt; rinse and never repeat. Who else went through this in boarding school? You'll get punished because you're waiting for your bestie to finish dressing up so you both can leave the hostel together. Your bestie is always late but the last time you ran out of the hostel and left her when the final bell for the next activity rang, she didn't talk to you for a week and that was the most miserable week of your life because she effortlessly recruited your other mutual friends to the beef when she told them the story. After junior class though, I left that senseless behaviour for people who had the strength.     While on camp, it was easy to lose track of time especially during that break between lunch and siesta. People used the time to eat, gist, sleep, watch movies, wash their clothes and do a lot of other things because the break usually lasted for up to 2 hours. One minute you'll be gisting and laughing then somehow after you've just finished spreading you...

CAMP SERIES: EPISODE 10

If na your sister you go allow her do this thing?”    Y ou know how you'll be required to be a certain way because of your profession? Or how people already have ideas about you because of your occupation? For example, we all associate lousiness with ‘market women’ but aren't there market women who go to their stands or shops at the market everyday and just do the necessary cajoling, sell their stuff and go home when it's time? We associate receptionists and waitresses as you know what, we expect all teachers to be strict. We see soldiers and become shaken because a soldier doesn't smile with civilians or with anybody at all.     I can't lie, I was really terrified seeing so many soldiers in one place when I first got to camp. I've always had this deep love and respect for the complete soldiers kit and their carriage, but now I know from experience that it is a different thing to admire them from afar and a different thing to be in the same space for a whol...

MY CAMP SERIES: EPISODE 9

Experiences differ from human to human. Listen, but be hungry for yours. I can guarantee that more than 50% of what they'll tell you before you get to camp would be true, but there'll definitely be more.     Some of my favourite people are going to camp this week and I'm so glad because I'll be on the receiving end of the gist but this time, I'll be listening with experience. This episode is especially for them.    We all see things differently and tell stories based on how things affect us.  I remember one theme song that time on Africa magic that sang, “experience is like bag everybody carry him own ”. That's exactly it.     Regardless of my unstable emotions around the time I was to go to camp and on the way too, I felt this thrill when I finally got to Kebbi state. I finally parted ways with this woman and her two kids who had been sleeping on my body for most of the journey from Minna.  My head magically felt light, my heart was thu...

Dare to dream- you are more than the figure you see in the mirror.

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MY CAMP SERIES EPISODE 5

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