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Love yourself, too.

It's somewhat hard to love ourselves in the ways we should, because of course, it's us. We don't put in the extra efforts we put into loving others into loving ourselves, why?

“Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others.”
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https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.harrirose.com/blog/2020/you-can-love-someone-else-more-than-yourself%3fpage=all&format=amp 
Harri Rose has said so many valid things about ‘why we love others more than ourselves’, you'd find it helpful so click the link above to read. 
I realised that I've saved money in the past to give to people or make others birthdays and important events memorable more than I've done for myself. It's easier to outline things you want to do for others and achieve them more than you would for yourself. 
Read Harri Rose's article for more.    
   I've been meaning to begin a culture of keeping a pack of soft drinks for myself in my room so that I can ‘enjoy my life’ and I've not gotten to it just yet, but just a few weeks ago, I bugged one of my sisters to find out the price of a pack of drinks so that I could send her the money to get it because she was complaining terribly about not eating almost until dinner because she'd been leaving early to school everyday and I wanted her to at least have a snack she can always take with her no matter the rush. 
Of course, it's very sweet to love people, be there and come through for them even when they do not ask outrightly. There's a special satisfaction that comes with knowing a person values you because ‘you do the most’. Why not do the most for yourself? It's going to be your birthday in a few months, along with preparing a cake and refreshments for a party, are you saving to get yourself that bag you've been looking to own? Or that pair of sneakers? You can afford to give it to someone else, give it to yourself too.
Photo: harrirose.com

Is this resonating with you? Are you realising that you've been starving yourself unintentionally? Why not be intentional this month? Just as you put people first, write your name on your contact list as someone you know and if needed, set your timer/reminder for your birthday so you can start saving to send a present to ‘someone you know’ which is actually you. I want to do this for me (consciously) starting this month so I'm enjoining you to do it for you too. I'm trying my best to be as intentional with myself as I am with my loved ones. I want to begin to meet those wants I starve myself of for the benefit of others. Don't get me wrong, I've said this previously- loving others is good and satisfying so you should consider yourself too as ‘others’. “Even the smallest dose of love packs immense power. Even when we're at our most self-pitying, loathsome lows, we can still give love to the people in our lives, and those people will feel it, even when we're not feeling it for ourselves. That's how Love plays”.
I saw a love yourself flyer on a friend's WhatsApp status and it awakened my scattered thoughts on this. I've written this for you, I hope we begin this journey together and achieve great success 😊
Happy February, it's no coincidence that it's the season of love.
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